THE THOMA$ FOUNDATION for Motivational Research

Self-Image vs. Self-Esteem

2009-09-12T15:13:00.000-07:00

I wrote about this a number of years ago, and published it in 2007. It is still as relevant today as it was then. You can’t HIDE their shortcomings from people to “avoid hurting their self-esteem.” This does them no favors. Liberals support doing this, and it’s wrong. The best way to help people is to let them know how good they are if they’re good, and tell them where they need work if that is true. Today, we often mistake “self-esteem” for “self-image,” and the difference between the two is TRUTH. Self-image is their own opinion of their talents and abilities, based on KNOWLEDGE, not by hiding the truth from them to give them a FALSE sense of superiority. Until we realize the difference, we’ll be hindering our children in their development. (THOMA$ Foundation for Motivational Research)

Smoking is NOT "An Addiction!"

2008-09-25T14:18:00.000-07:00

It’s a habit. It’s one that is easily broken if YOU want to quit. There are too many people out there “enabling” your smoking by calling it “an addiction.” I smoked for 45 years, and at the last, smoked three packs a day, plus a few cigars. Then one day I got tired of it. I decided I didn’t want to smoke any more, so I simply never “lit up” again. I walked around for three weeks with an open pack of cigarettes in my pocket so it couldn’t be said that I “removed temptation.” I kept that pack until it crumbled to dust, then threw the dust away. My wife was probably the first to notice I was no longer smoking because she no longer had to empty those ubiquitous ash trays. The rest of the family probably figured it out when the place no longer smelled of cigarettes. I told nobody when I quit because I didn’t want any “help.” I never smoked again, and haven’t, to this day. Some years before I had stopped smoking for five years, just to prove to myself that I could. People kept telling me I couldn’t. I started again five years to the day later, because at the time I, personally, didn’t really want to quit smoking. But this time, it was MY decision to quit smoking, and I had no trouble. There WERE a few days at the first when I “hungered” for a smoke, but I was able to resist easily. I didn’t even use any of those ubiquitous “chewing gums”or other expensive ways you see advertised to get you away from “your addiction.” I just stopped, and I’m not sorry. I STILL enjoy the SMELL of someone ELSE smoking a cigarette, but, unlike other “former smokers” who are deathly afraid if they SMELL someone smoking, they won’t be able to resist smoking themselves, I am not “tempted.” People keep asking me why I still go into the smoking sections in restaurants. I’ll sit in either. I tell them it’s not a problem for me. You can do it, too--if YOU want to do it and are not doing it simply at the urging of someone else. That’s how “personal motivation” affects it. (Just common sense)

Lies and Misinformation

2008-09-25T13:47:00.000-07:00

I'm really getting tired of the lies and misinformation being put out as truth by not only the media, but also by business in advertising. One such place is the emphasis on "self-esteem" in the media AND in various ads. Self-esteem is simply your opinion of yourself based on LACK of knowledge of your talents and abilities. They willfully HIDE such information(if it's negative) from you so you will "think of yourself as a beautiful person." Self IMAGE, however, is your view of yourself because of KNOWLEDGE of your own talents and abilities. Another area is oil. Even President Bush has been heard to talk about "our oil addiction." That's false! We are NOT "addicted" to oil, nor are we "addicted" to air, water, and fire. These are NECESSITIES of life! Without them, life, as we know it, would END. That is NOT an "addiction." Another is a political ad that says a certain candidate "has been named the most corrupt." By whom? Her opponent or his friends, of course. So listen to those who push such ideas with skepticism. (Just common sense)

Enshrining Mediocrity

2008-05-01T09:39:00.000-07:00

Today in schools, they hold track meets, where they give "blue ribbons" to EVERYBODY who "participates" so as not to damage" the "self-esteem" of the students. They mix up "self-image" (which is your opinion of your own talents and abilities through recognition of the PROOF of them) with "self-esteem" which is the same, but WITHOUT proof. It is keeping from them the idea that they might not be as good as someone else. They think this will somehow "damage" them. What it really does, is "enshrine mediocrity." It makes everybody somehow "even." It does not. Those students know who won the competition, even if those who organize it will not allow it to be mentioned. This is one of the stupidest things I've seen liberals do, but they're doing it everywhere. They will not allow those who would excel at ANYTHING to do so. They say they want "an even playing field," but what they really want is for NOBODY to lose and nobody to win. If a company makes more money than another, they want to "move the goal posts" so that companies with less talented management are able to "compete." (This is not "competition") This kind of thinking removes all incentive to compete because the competitors know they cannot win, and they cannot lose. This is what socialism does: remove incentive. (Just common sense)

Are YOU A "Rainmaker?"

2008-04-08T11:18:00.000-07:00

A "rainmaker" in a law firm is the one who brings in the most business. But the term works in all kinds of business, too. Are YOU a "rainmaker" in your business? Or are you someone who is "just there?" Rainmakers are the ones who make the most money because they are the most valuable to their employers (even if they are their own employers), which is why they make the most money. If you aren't a "rainmaker," resolve to become one, and your income will increase accordingly, whether you're working for someone else or for yourself. (Nightingale-Conant)

Shielding Children From Failure

2007-12-09T09:50:00.000-08:00

What's behind the recent spate of mass killings? Some blame the easy availability of guns. That's silly. If guns were not available, they'd use swords; or knives; or baseball bats; or anything else that would kill. The availability of the means to kill has nothing to do with the motivation to kill. What's behind these mass killings is the "shielding" of our children from failure, which does not allow them to learn how to deal with failure and they blame others for it. The urge to kill those they blame is not far away. (Ray Thomas 101)

Self-Image vs. Self-Esteem

2007-12-04T12:31:00.000-08:00

There seems to be a difference in understanding these days between "self-esteem" and "self-image." Liberals seem to think they need to hide negative information from people (mostly children) and get rid of competition so as to not hurt the "self-esteem" of children and others. This is not the way to help people live better lives. There is a difference between "self-esteem" and "self-image," and that is "truth." "Self-image" is your own opinion of your talents and abilities based on your learning and experience. "Self-esteem" seems to be your opinion of your talents and abilities based on HIDING the truth from you and keeping you away from ANY kind of competition. This will not work because it gives you a FALSE image of your talents and abilities, based on NOTHING. You must judge your talents and abilities based on TRUTH, not ignorance of shortcomings. The trend toward eliminating competition in sports is evidence of that. What is the PURPOSE of sports, except to allow "the cream to rise to the top?" What is the purpose of playing a game such as baseball or football if there's no score? Believe me, the players know the score, even if those in charge don't keep track of it. They KNOW who made the most scores, even if those "in charge" want to keep that information from them. The article linked below mistakes "self-esteem" for "self-image," but otherwise is mostly right. Those who want to completely eliminate competition and keep negative information from people to avoid "hurting their self-esteem," are wrong, and are systematically hurting the people they try and instruct. A good "self-image" comes from becoming superior at what you do, and by knowing it. It does NOT come from making decisions based on LACK of information about your own talents and abilities and by AVOIDING all kinds of competition. (Kid's Health,

Personal Motivation in a Philosophy

2007-10-31T13:20:00.000-07:00

It has been 50 years since the publication of Ayn Rand's "Atlas Shrugged. Many people reject, out of hand, Ayn Rand's philosophy of objectivism because they don't agree with EVERY tenet of it. I don't agree with every word she says, either. But her philosophy was, in the main, correct and I have used it (mostly) as a guide for my life and my "method of operation." When I was studying personal motivation back in the sixties, I didn't realize that her philosophy was pure personal motivation. It took me a few years to make the connection although I have used most of the tenets of Objectivism to guide my life. It is the fiftieth year since the publishing of her "seminal work," "Atlas Shrugged," in which the "producers of society," those who produce all the things that make life better for all of us (they have all the original ideas and hire all the people necessary to produce them) while being systematically looted by those who are jealous of their success, but who cannot equal it and want an unearned share "went on strike" (the producers) and refused to produce for them any more. Naturally, this caused the collapse of society and then those same "producers" rebuilt it without the input of the "looters." This book literally changed my life. It should be a "must read" for everybody who is living under today's march toward the collectivism (socialism) she abhorred. Before I read this book, I had to ask, "What is happening today that alarms you?" of her. I don't need to ask that today. (Colorado Freedom Report, 10/10/07)

What is "Individualism?"

2007-10-30T12:33:00.000-07:00

Back in the sixties when I undertook what was to be a five-year intensive study of "personal motivation," I didn't understand what that meant politically. I didn't understand that to be an "individualist," I could not be a socialist (collectivist). Later on in life, as I learned more, I figured out that a collectivist cannot be an individualist because that very philosophy denies the importance of the individual and wishes to suborn it to the importance of the group. Unfortunately, collectivism does not recognize the fact that a "collective" is merely a "collection of individuals," with each individual within the group primarily interested in his/her own interests. This destroys the whole idea of the "collective" because nobody is interested in the goals of the collective unless those goals coincided with his/her own. That's why I will never be a collectivist (socialist) because that (those) philosophies just do not work. They put the interests of the group above those of all the individuals within the group. Therefore, those "group interests" must be imposed on those individuals Therefore, for a socialist (collectivist) society to flourish for any time at all, it must be a "dictatorial" society with the power to by force force its ideas on all the individuals within the "collective." If it is not, there is no way a "collective" will work because it destroys individual initiative. People will do "just enough" to get paid. they will not do anything more and if they find a way to collect by doing nothing, they will. They'll "line up" to prove how "needy" they are because "need" becomes a "demand" on the earnings of those capable and willing to earn for themselves.

The "Magic of Believing"

2007-10-16T14:37:00.000-07:00

This book was written a long time ago and I read it at my wife's behest in the early sixties. This book changed my life in ways I wouldn't have imagined before I read it. The simple concept here is that unless you believe in your own talents and abilities, you'll never do anything, He goes on and on at the beginning of the book telling you all about how people looked at small things and made big things out of them. Such things as the eight notes that made up the musical scale, from which all the world's musical masterpieces were created; the 26 letters in the alphabet, from which all the great writings in history have been written; and the three colors in the spectrum, from which all the great masterpieces of art have been created. It is this that affected me profoundly and started me on what was to become a five-year quest to learn as much as I could about "personal motivation" (and a lifetime of practicing what I learned) which resulted in my giving seminars and my company leading the nation in sales of carbon paper! By that, I mean real motivation. The kind that comes from within. Not the kind sales managers try to instill in you by "rah, rah" sessions, after which you go out for coffee. And by the time you return to work, it's gone. If you sincerely believe in yourself, you can ultimately do anything. But that motivation must come from within. It cannot be "instilled" from without. Bristol speaks about computers that would "take all the power put out by Niagara Falls" to stay cool enough not to melt. That no longer applies, since much better and smaller computers have been invented, using the 64k of memory that was available. Those massive computers in the past only had 64k of memory, for all their size. But imaginitive people who believed they could, linked these 64k modules together and made computers with unimaginable (then) power. Today, the computer that sits on your (and my) desk has more power than that building-large computer because of those people who believed in themselves and what they could do. So they did it. If you read only one "self-help book" in your lifetime (you won't), make it this one.

Last Post Outdated

2007-10-16T13:24:00.001-07:00

The last post (about "negative people") is somewhat outdated because most of what I had planned didn't happen, due to a heart attack in 2005 and the need for a quadruple bypass. Kinda messed up my plans (some of them). I was never able to run around and sell advertising because I have a lot of difficulty just moving around. So driving all over the mountains selling to car dealers and real estate brokers is out, at least for a while. So instead, I'm running an Internet business owned by my son, marketing disguised self-defense products such as a cell-phone stun gun. It looks like a cell-phone, stuns like hell. Makes for a big surprise for anybody who is trying to attack or rob you. Women, especially, need these products, mostly just for protection on the street, or from ex spouses or boyfriends who just don't get it, and the like. Oldsters, like me are excellent prospects, too because, like women, we are considered "easy targets" by the "bad guys." I don't plan on being anybody's "easy target. In fact, recently I used one of our "Runt" stun guns to stop a "road rage" incident that could have ended up with me being severely beaten by a reckless driver who took offense to my shaking my head at the way he drives. This business is excellent for me because I can not only sell these products on the Internet and through the mail (without leaving my bedroom), I can also sell them simply by using the "three-foot rule" when I do get out and around. (If you get within three feet of me, you hear about my products). With my desktop publishing skills from way back, I can create my own brochures and forms, which saves Mike (my son) a lot of money. I spend a lot of time promoting this business, and that keeps my mind busy, as well as my hands. I could go around doing the "negative" thing, as do many people in my situation, but I refuse to do that. Oh; did I mention the book I wrote and am now promoting? So whatever happens in your life, stay positive. If you're a "positive person," you can find something that will keep you alive. I did.

The Buggy Whip Industry

2005-01-09T19:21:00.000-08:00

You may remember a time when you couldn't open a mail order or other opportunity publication without finding one or more of my articles in it. Then one day, they disappeared, and with a few exceptions occasioned by publishers printing articles they've had in stock for a long time, running the ads that came with them, all of which are now outdated, they haven't returned. There's a good reason for that. It finally came to me that mail order has degenerated to the point where there are very few serious opportunities in the business. It is overwhelmingly filled with illegal pyramid schemes and chain letters masquerading as "opportunities."

When I first got into mail order there were actually real opportunities to be had. I made a lot of money selling American Unifax products, principally a typing ribbon that made an "executive typewriter" out of just any old typewriter, allowing these manual typewriters to put out sharp, black typing that looked almost like typesetting. Also a carbon paper replacement that obsoleted carbon paper where you could buy 20 sheets for about the same as 100 sheets of old-fashioned carbon paper. But the 20 sheets far outperformed the 100 sheets of common carbon paper while giving you a "carbon paper" that put out sharp, black typing, did not "tree" when wadded up, and which you couldn't tear in two with your hands alone and gave you more sharp copies than a box of 100 sheets of carbon paper. It was what I called a "breakthrough product" that obsoleted several industries -- like the automobile obsoleted the buggy-whip industry and ruined the market for horse-drawn carriages.

But with the coming of the home computer and cheap copying, it was, itself, obsoleted. You no longer had to type a sales letter and have it expensively printed at the copy shop. Now you could create a letterhead inside your computer in several colors if you want, use it as a template by simply saving the original file under a new name. That way, you could do the same with a sales letter. Type the letter and make a template out of it, then when your get inquiries to your ads, you simply send a personalized letter in answer instead of a pre-printed, non-personalized sales letter. Just type in the inquirer's name and address, save it under his/her name, and you still have your original template. You can write the letter once, and send it to many people. And if you want to change it a little later on, it's easy (It's a good idea to have a backup copy or two of your original letter in case you forget and save something over it.).

But having my product obsoleted is not why I got out. There were other "breakthrough products" I could market, one being synthetic oil. I got out because I saw the entire opportunity seeker-small mail order business going to the dogs through the proliferation of the "pyramid scheme/chain letter programs" that had no product, only the "opportunity." There was one I call the "four-report scheme," where you had to buy all four "reports," (which usually were one-page reports that taught you nothing but were there only so the originator could say he had a "product" to sell.) one from each participant, with the hope that you could reprint those reports and sell them to new suckers.

I'm still selling through the mail and in person, using my web site and writing articles for another market and allowing them to be published in the same way as I did all over the small mail order market. Instead of the ads they ran in return for my articles selling my product, they only gave a hint of what it was, while directing the reader to my web site, which not only tells the whole story, but also allows them to order product right from the web site and even sign up as a dealer for a real networking program, right from the web site, or from me. My web site is connected directly to my company with a code number to make sure I get credit for my sales and prospects Plus, I get prospects from the company as well. But it's still essentially mail order since those who come to me instead of dealing through the web site must be corresponded with.

I have a letter for each contingency, right in a file in my computer. If you write me asking about my product, you'll get back a personalletter addressed to you by name and address that was computer-generated. Any personal comments and questions would be answered, usually in the first paragraph, which can always be changed easily and that name and address entered in your customer database. The bulk of the letter would be a standard sales letter that looks like a personal letter, but I am able to speak to the writer's personal concerns as well, at the same time.

This is something that has revolutionized my operation, no matter what I'm selling. Even without the web site-supported products, I can still operate this way whenever I have to write the same letter over and over again with little or no change. I don't mind being "computered out" of my profession of billboard pictorial artist because the very computer that ran me out of my 45-year profession opened the door to a new profession: simple web site design. That's in addition to my major product. I'm doing okay without having to advertise in hundreds of small mail order publications. I survived the obsoleting of not only my profession, but of the obsoleting (mostly by me) of my system of operation.

Always look for ways to find something positive in the negatives that come your way. Don't just whine about the way things have gone, just look for other ways that will work for you.

People liked to whine about the "plight of the buggy-whip makers" when the automobile was invented, but it is those who looked for opportunities of which you can take advantage who prosper (such as automobile aftermarket products). Every door that closes causes another one to open. Be sure you're looking for that opening door when bad things happen.

Avoid Negative People

2005-01-03T05:51:00.000-08:00

Stay away from negative people except to use them as a means of "taking the temperature" of the world. Earl Nightngale always said, "Any time you have a new idea, tell it to ten people. If at least nine of them tell you it's a bad idea -- do it. It's a proven fact that such people are their own worst enemies because they condition themselves to failure by looking at life in a negative fashion. Always look at the positive side of anything that happens. I had a small stroke in 2003, and have not been the same since. My energy is very low and I can't work for much more than three hours before I have to go and lie down for a while. I haven't been able to work a full day straight at anything more than once a week. Did I look at this as a "bad thing?" No. It gave me a lot of free time I could put to good use. Instead, I made plans to travel the state of Colorado (and perhaps Utah and Wyoming, too) selling real estate signs to real estate dealers and auto dealer decals to auto dealers. These will be my primary lines because the prospects are easy to find. All I have to do is drive down a busy street and I can find them easily. I will also be able to provide all kinds of signs and decals for other purposes, such as labeling on bottled gas containers or on water heaters -- or on about anything else people sell to the public.

If I want to find those not on the streets I'm on, I go to my computer and use the "Yellow Pages (in my area, it's Dex Online. It will tell me who and where these people are, in any way I want: alphabetical, by address, area, etc.) If you don't have, or have access to a computer, use the Yellow Pages Book. I'm able to walk for short distances and drive for longer periods. So I will be able to use this as a means of moderate exercise and a means of earning money. Although earning money is not the main goal. I have enough money. But I am not rich. I can use the proceeds of the one day a week I work for someone else as "seed money," to buy gas and oil, and to pay for the motel rooms I'll need while on the road. When there's enough money from sales, I can stop that one day of the week I spend working for somebody else.

I was very tempted to be "down," thinking, "what kind of a life is this?" where I have to stay home all the time and am not able to do anything meaningful. It's not having a purpose in life that kills most people who suffer from strokes. Many of them are debilitated, losing the permanent use of one side or the other. I only lost the use of my left side temporarily. It's still weak, but getting stronger all the time. Man is basically a "goal-striving animal." Actuarial figures prove that women outlive men by an average of eight years. Did you ever wonder why? It's simple: hubby retires, and from then on has no purpose (goal) in life. Soon, he dies. Momma goes on doing what she's been doing all her life and lives forever. Look in the newspaper. You'll see repeated over and over again in the obituaries, "so and so retired three months ago. Or six months ago. Or a year ago. To retire is to die! Let me rephrase that: "to retire and have no goals left is to die." The key here is "no goals." You must have goals that you're striving for, even if it's nothing but growing valuable rare orchids. It is that "striving" that keeps you alive. And you'll be surprised how often such "goal-striving" created a whole new career for you. Have you ever wondered why so many rich people die, take up drugs, do other self-destructive things? You'd thing those people had everything, wouldn't you? They lack the one thing they absolutely need to stay alive: a goal in life.

I was a sign painter for 45 years. I was already "retired" when I had the stroke. But I spent all my time not at work before that on this computer writing, publishing (on the Internet) and designing web sites. I got "computered out" of the sign business years ago. That's the reason for the "retirement." Note that my time on this computer was "when not at work." Don't think I just stopped working when I got "computered" out of the sign business (they came up with computers that they thought could replace the sign painter and the sign painting jobs dried up). Not even! Computers threw me out of a lifelong profession, so computers can help me to find a new profession: writing, publishing, and designing "simple" web sites for others. Until that starts paying off significantly, I only use it to keep my mind active. I use sales to keep my body exercised, and make money, too. The whole point here is, never let circumstances depress you. There's always something you can do to keep your mind and body active, and thus stay alive. Do NOT "retire" and do nothing. That's a "death sentence."

THE THOMA$ FOUNDATION

2005-01-02T11:03:00.000-08:00

This is a foundation I created specifically so I could supply money (and be able to deduct it from my income) to my search for real motivation, not the false motivation given by so-called "motivators" who try to motivate you when the only way you can be motivated is from within, using your own opinion of your talents and abilities, based on your "self-image (your opinion of your own abilities based on your previous conditioning and learning from many sources). This foundation will be a "for profit" foundation, not a tax-free, non-profit.